We all go through this process in life called growing up, and the truth of the matter is, it’s more than just a phase. You don’t just pass through it, its lifelong, continuous. I am a firm believer in physical manifestation, meaning that if I cannot physically see with my own eyes what you are saying or claiming then it is null. It’s easy to really want something and declare it and profess it, but yelling and screaming it loud and proud will not bring it to manifestation. You can pray and fast but you are going to have to put in some work!
If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you are not moving forward, you are stagnant in your growth, this post is for you. Maybe you have a certain goal you have been working toward, whether it be personal or in terms of academics, but every time you think you’re almost there that goal just looks at you and says “ha-ha! you thought?!” This post is for you because something is not right!
If there’s one thing I’ve learned about myself it’s that I’m human (Obviously right? Haha!). What I’m trying to say is that sometimes we think we can do any and everything and just expect things to work themselves out in due time. However, if you value yourself and are really serious about your personal growth this is not the way to think. It’s time to sit yourself down and say “Look, if we’re going to do this here’s how we need to do it, somethings have to change”.
You have to set limitations for yourself and set boundaries between you and others, it’s a must. In this day and age, there are way too many distractions and because of our nature as humans, we are easily swayed. Self-control is necessary for growth and I can say from experience that inherently, we do not have that. It is something to be learned, but I have good news for you. Limitations and boundaries will help condition you and help you develop self-control. You have to be able to judge when what you think is “enough” has actually become too much.
Now the part you’ve all been waiting for: How? At one point in my life, I began to feel as though I was not where I wanted to be or where I ought to be academically and spiritually. No one told me this, I reflected on my life and my goals and I found that I was lacking in certain areas and I acted. I needed to focus more on myself and I know it sounds selfish because I’ve been told so by some people whom I ended up cutting off. Truth is, it’s not being selfish at all. It’s bettering yourself so that you can help enable others.
I had to look at all that I had been doing, leading up to that present moment and ask myself how all my actions, involvement and interactions have influenced my being in my present situation. That’s all there is to it. Evaluate yourself, no one knows you like you do. Figure out what needs to be cut down or cut out completely, and do not have pity on yourself.