Is Social Media Affecting Our Mental Health?

You don’t really think about it as you’re scrolling through Instagram or Snapchat, but most of the time you’re subconsciously comparing yourself to the girl with 500 likes on her latest selfie without realizing the damage that is actually being done. The saying, “comparison is the thief of all joy” has never been more true in the case of social media sites. Before social media became as popular as it is, it was common to see a girl (or guy) and get a little jealous over what they had and wish it was yours. But in today’s world it’s a completely different deal when you’re constantly fixating on someone’s page; every picture, every Twitter post and Snapchat update, because you may want the life that this person claims to live.

If you don’t know by now, putting on a façade for your social media reputation has become so common that you can never really be too sure of who someone says they are when they log out of the social world.

I went through a time in my life where I did nothing but compare myself to other women that I followed on Instagram or Snapchat. I felt as though every one of those women was doing better than me in some way. If I didn’t think they looked better, I thought they dressed better. If it wasn’t the way they dressed, it was their success in life; and the list can go on and on. I drove myself crazy! I was constantly trying to emulate what I saw on social media so it could seem as though I had my life together. I didn’t realize what it was doing to me mentally.

I found myself being dissatisfied with everything in my life; not just my appearance but my job, the way I wore my hair, how I spent my free time, everything. I had adopted the “if you don’t post it, it didn’t happen” mentality and I was hurting myself. It contributed to my fight with depression and anxiety for over a year.

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It’s so easy to get caught up in all that you consume on a daily basis. It can bring on episodes of depression because you feel as though you aren’t good enough, or you haven’t accomplished as much as some of your other followers, and you don’t even recognize the signs because you’re too busy comparing your hair to a random girl that you found on the “Explore” page of Instagram.

The cure to social media comparison, that I’ve found to be helpful, is gratitude. Be thankful for what you have and who you are. You’re fixating on these people and the lives that you think they live, but you have no idea how it truly is, and you have no idea how they got to that point in their lives.

Social media hiatuses are an amazing way to begin to put a stop to that nasty cycle of comparison. I know it may be extremely hard considering that we basically live on the internet, but it helps. Taking time away from the pressures that social media can bring can lift so much weight off your shoulders; you’ll find that you have so much more to be grateful for in your life. Just because you don’t broadcast it the way some of your other followers may doesn’t make your life any less amazing.


Caudalie Indulgent Review

So ladies back in May a few weeks after my birthday I remembered that I needed to go to Sephora and pick up my birthday gift!  How could I almost forget to recieve a free product right?!  Yeah I know, so anyways I went to go pick it up and I had the choice of choosing the Tarte Coordinated twosome for lips and cheeks orrrr the Caudalie Indulgent pair!  I figured since I needed more skin care products I should go with the Caudalie Indulgent pair.  So girlies this blog is going to be a review on my Sephora Birthday gift! Yayyyy!

The two products that came with the Sephora gift was the Caudalie Vinoperfect Radiance Serum and the Caudalie Vinosource Moisturizing Sorbet!

The Vinoperfect Radiance serum is made with grapeseed Viniferine and is supposed to pinpoint the appearance of your dark spots and amplify radiance.  The Vinosource Moisturizer is a soothing gel cream that is formulated to strengthen the and reduce sensitivity over time!  

So of course you are probably wondering “Well did it work?” or “So, did it do what is was ‘made’ to do?”.  Ladies, when I tell you these were the best skin care products that I have ever used in my life, I am not lying!  The duo is so perfect, they compliment each other like Jay-z and Beyonce!  

My morning skincare routine consist of cleansing my face, followed by using the Caudalie serum first and then the Caudalie moisturizer!  Everyday, when I apply it, I never want to put on makeup afterwards because that is how much I love the way it makes my skin glow.  It really does give it a clear, even and radiant look!  I have bags and dark circles under my eyes and they can get a little out of control, which was another reason why I was excited to try this product out. It really did help with my circles and the dark coloration, I can see a difference as soon as I apply it!  

So if you have a birthday coming up, please, please, please choose the Caudalie Indulgent Pair!  I promise you will love it!  


Influential Woman of the Week

An inspirational woman is like a hero. Someone you know that wants you to strive and excel in life. Someone who will give you great advice for the future and that you can look up to. My inspirational woman of the week would have to be my mother. Now as cliche as it may be, a mother’s love is definitely irreplaceable. My mother is not only my hero, but a friend, a coach, a teacher (literally), a doctor, a lawyer, and everything in between.

Prior to my mother having me, she attended Montclair State University in New Jersey where she studied Chemistry. She received her Bachelors of Science degree in Pharmacy at St. John’s University School in Jamaica Queens, New York. She began working at Pathmark’s Pharmacy Department as well as working for Prescription Counter in South Orange, NJ up until I was about 6 years old. My mother always had it in her to give back to the children of the community, so she took it upon herself to go back to school for her teaching license. Continue reading Influential Woman of the Week

God’s Plan vs. Your Plan

Life happens, and well, things don’t always go as we planned. Usually when this happens, we feel the need to hit the reset button. We try to start all over, take a different approach but maybe all you really need to do is hit the pause button. Have you ever just sat down and thought “maybe things aren’t meant to be this way”? We can be overly ambitious as humans, and this causes us to try to pursue things we ought not to at a particular point in time. God’s plan and your plan, like it or not, may just be quite opposite, or maybe your timing is just all out of whack. Continue reading God’s Plan vs. Your Plan

Juggling A Relationship in College

I know you’ve all been told at least once that you shouldn’t go to college in a relationship. It works for some, not for others. I didn’t enter college with a significant other, but I had close friends who did. And I watched them stress out over missed calls or calls that never came, long distance situations, and planning visits throughout the year. I’m not saying it can’t be done, I’m just saying, it’s a lot of work. And a huge distraction that you don’t need your first year on new territory.

Fast-forward a little bit. You didn’t enter college with a boo, but you somehow acquired one along the way. And I know you’re probably thinking, “OMG, this is so perfect!” And you two are spending all your free time together, having dinner together on campus, he’s coming to your dorm, you’re going to his. Everything is great…until you look up and realize that you’ve missed two assignments and have a test coming up! Continue reading Juggling A Relationship in College

Eyebrows on Squiggle

Just when you thought your eyebrow game was on fleek and flawless to a T, social media wanted to switch it up on us!  Thats right!  Squiggle brows is a new eyebrow trend that will have you totally flabbergasted if you have not witnessed the new trend yet.  This new brow trend popped up out of nowhere by beauty and makeup influencers.  They are having so much fun with this squiggly look!  I have been seeing these squiggle brows all over my instagram discover feed in total shock.  When I first saw it, I really did not know how to feel.  I was stuck in between the thought of “should I draw squiggly brows on my face the next time I want to get cute?” or should I absolutely hate the jaw dropping trend?   Continue reading Eyebrows on Squiggle

3 Tips for Incoming College Freshman

As an incoming freshman, going to a brand new school with complete independence can be a struggle and an adjustment to deal with. You really aren’t sure what to expect the first day of classes and haven’t met that many people to socialize with on campus. You’re questioning whether or not you should purchase textbooks, how much time you’d have between classes to grab a bite to eat, and fitting in your everyday workout. Prior to accomplishing day to day activities, attending classes and meeting new people, I have three tips that I feel will help you have a successful first year. Continue reading 3 Tips for Incoming College Freshman

Limitations and Boundaries: Knowing when enough has become too much

We all go through this process in life called growing up, and the truth of the matter is, it’s more than just a phase. You don’t just pass through it, its lifelong, continuous. I am a firm believer in physical manifestation, meaning that if I cannot physically see with my own eyes what you are saying or claiming then it is null. It’s easy to really want something and declare it and profess it, but yelling and screaming it loud and proud will not bring it to manifestation. You can pray and fast but you are going to have to put in some work! Continue reading Limitations and Boundaries: Knowing when enough has become too much

Is College for Everyone?

So, you’ve graduated high school. You’ve received your diploma, you’re no longer forced to get up at 6 A.M. for school; you’re free…so to speak. Now what?

For some, it’s already been decided for you. You’re going to get accepted (at this point you probably already have) into your dream school or the school that one or both of your parents attended and encouraged you to go to, to keep the tradition going. You’re going to major in something impressive like Biochemistry or something like that. And you’re going to excel, graduate, and begin an equally impressive career. Sounds easy, right? Continue reading Is College for Everyone?

Battle of the Blenders

There is an ongoing talk about what is a better blending product to use for makeup.  We all probably know what is more popular (Beauty Blender), it is even a six times “Best of Beauty” award winning makeup product!  

However, we also know that the Beauty Blender is roughly twenty dollars each!  With all the hype, who wouldn’t choose the magical Beauty Blender?  

Then, we have an affordable product that is $7.99 and that my friends is the wonderful Real Techniques Sponge.

Which one do I use and why? Continue reading Battle of the Blenders