Support comes in various ways, but the sincerity of that support is most important. Sincere support only comes from a genuine supporter. Who is a genuine supporter? Someone who knows and understands your goals and aspirations, wants you to achieve them just as much as you do and is willing to do all they possibly can to help you in doing so.
In speaking of a close-knit support system, we are going to look at two classes of individuals who play key roles in our individual lives: family and friends. Your support system should definitely consist of both these groups. It is expected that our greatest support comes from our family, our parents. Those who have watched us grow from the diaper stage to the adult stage. Parents and family have our best interest at heart.
However, when it comes to pursuing a career that maybe no one in your family has ever pursued, this becomes something new for everyone. It can become a little hard trying to make your family understand why you must do certain things instead of coming home on holidays and spending more time with them, but it’s the little things they do that matter. Their support now becomes always being within reach when you may want to speak to them, need advice or maybe you just want to talk. Maybe even just bringing you home cooked meals because they know you have long nights and not enough time to cook for yourself. While they still believe in you and in your aspirations, their inability to fully comprehend the struggle you are currently faced with channels their support to be a genuine act of love, which is very important.
Friends on the other hand, see it all. They are with you on a day to day basis and are possibly enduring the struggle with you as well. Unfortunately, not everyone who says they’re a friend is truly a friend and I’m sure we are all aware of this. There comes a point when you will have to pick and choose wisely who you want to be your friend; many of us have already reached this point or are quickly approaching it. At an early stage in life many of us had more than 20 friends, but as you progress and embark on your journey to success, you will find that that number drastically decreases.
I can honestly say that I have no more than 8 friends at this point in my life and I am certain that as I continue my journey, the number will more than likely drop to about 5 or 4. I’m not saying that those other people are not good or not worthy of being my friends, it’s a matter of who can help me on this journey that I have chosen to take? That’s something you have to ask yourself.
Your support system should consist of individuals that you know without a doubt will put you in check when needed. Individuals who can pull you up when you fall. Individuals you can fall back on and know that they’ve got you no matter what time or hour of the day. Individuals who have something to offer you, something to teach you. Individuals you can growth with.
These pictures I’ve shared are some of my very close friends. Two of these girls have been with me all the way from high school and our bond is one that can never be broken. We have seen each other at some of our worst times and we have tirelessly supported one another through everything. They know how badly I want to achieve my dreams and they want it for me as bad as I want it for myself and vice versa. The other two young ladies I was so blessed to have met my freshman year in college and I couldn’t have asked for more genuine and supportive individuals to call friends, but even more sisters. And you know, friends that slay together stay together, haha !