I had a very close-knit group of friends in middle school and throughout most of high school. We went everywhere and did everything together, if we could help it. We were popular and got a lot of attention. We felt more than important and no one could tell us otherwise. Time went by, and as everyone started sprouting into their own person and reaping the benefits of puberty, things changed. There was no more of the genuine innocence that covered our friendships, but new-found tension and jealousy, and it got worse every day it seemed. Continue reading Black Women vs. Black Women: Comparison and Competition
I know you’ve all been told at least once that you shouldn’t go to college in a relationship. It works for some, not for others. I didn’t enter college with a significant other, but I had close friends who did. And I watched them stress out over missed calls or calls that never came, long distance situations, and planning visits throughout the year. I’m not saying it can’t be done, I’m just saying, it’s a lot of work. And a huge distraction that you don’t need your first year on new territory.
Fast-forward a little bit. You didn’t enter college with a boo, but you somehow acquired one along the way. And I know you’re probably thinking, “OMG, this is so perfect!” And you two are spending all your free time together, having dinner together on campus, he’s coming to your dorm, you’re going to his. Everything is great…until you look up and realize that you’ve missed two assignments and have a test coming up! Continue reading Juggling A Relationship in College
Support comes in various ways, but the sincerity of that support is most important. Sincere support only comes from a genuine supporter. Who is a genuine supporter? Someone who knows and understands your goals and aspirations, wants you to achieve them just as much as you do and is willing to do all they possibly can to help you in doing so.
In speaking of a close-knit support system, we are going to look at two classes of individuals who play key roles in our individual lives: family and friends. Your support system should definitely consist of both these groups. It is expected that our greatest support comes from our family, our parents. Those who have watched us grow from the diaper stage to the adult stage. Parents and family have our best interest at heart. Continue reading Major Keys to Success #2: Having a Close-Knit Support System
If you’re anything like me, you prefer experiences over the traditional giving of gifts. Experiences create lifelong memories that can’t be replaced; while gifts can be lost, thrown away, or even taken back. Here are a few Valentine’s Day ideas for those who just want each other’s time and presence.
Netflix & Chill– Valentine’s Day doesn’t always have to be an expensive night out on the town. There’s nothing wrong with being a homebody. This Valentine’s Day order lots of pizza and binge watch Netflix with your special someone. I mean really, what better way to spend the day than with bae chowing down pizza? And if you want to be a little more romantic, get a bottle of wine and light some candles to set the mood.
Weekend BAEcation– Hey! Let’s get away! Let’s get a room on the other side of town! Choose a place of your choice and hit the road with that special someone. Escape the hectic life at home and explore a different place together. Take it from me ladies, a weekend alone with your man will be unforgettable.
Romantic Wine & Dine– Got a little money to spend this year? Treat your loved one to a romantic evening they’ll never forget. Usually nicer hotels have a special couples package that includes an upscale room with a complimentary bottle of champagne. Order room service then hang that “do not disturb” sign on the door. After dinner invite your loved one to a midnight bubble bath soak. Turn down the lights and light soft-scented candles to set the perfect mood.