It is very easy to get caught up in visions and dreams forgetting that the end-point is actually but a small fraction of the big picture. In the words of Arthur Ashe, “Success is a journey, NOT a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome”. It is human nature to long for something but not want to put in the work to get our desired end-product. Unfortunately, even when we do choose to put in the work, it is only for the sole purpose of getting the desired outcome, simply neglecting all that the process has to offer.
“Rapping is for males.” “You will never make it in this male dominated culture.”
“Hip Hop is for the men who need to listen and recognize their story in a musical form.”
False, False and False. Hip Hop and rap plays a major part in today’s society and of course, the industry is male dominated. I appreciate all of these men who work hard for what they have:
the marketing skills they have used to build their audience, staying up late nights,
touring city to city, and even continent to continent. A man’s hard work in the music industry will
never go unnoticed but a woman’s work always seems to be overlooked. Continue reading Female Phenomenon: An Intro to Cardi B’s Fame
As African American queens, we have all had a specific thought run across our minds; “Should I go natural?”. Some of us have accomplished, attempted, or kept it as a thought. If you fit into the “attempted” or “kept it as a thought” category, this post is specifically for you! As far as my accomplished sistas, don’t worry, if you need some reassurance, this is for you too! Continue reading 5 Reasons to Go Natural
Hi there curly friends! I am super excited about our new series “Major Keys to Success” and I hope you all are too!
Today we’re going to be kicking things off by delving deeper into Major Key to Success number 1: Believing in something. In other words, having faith. Yes, that’s right faith. I’m sure when many of us hear this word what initially comes to mind without a thought is religion, which is absolutely ok. However, that’s not necessarily what we’re here to discuss today. Before we get back to faith and what exactly I mean by that word, let’s talk a little about why having these so called “keys to success” are important. Continue reading Major Keys to Success: #1 Believing in Something
Every year universal trends and styles are either discarded, recycled or evolved. These fashion trends are incorporated into our personal style, meaning the way we express our individuality changes in time as well. I have found that one thing that truly gets me excited for the new year is shopping! Splurging on new items to add to your wardrobe at the beginning of the year kick-starts your “New Year, New Me” look. I’m sure that I share that same excitement of coming back from break owning a new hand bag or pair of shoes with a lot of women. Here is what I suggest:
Do research! This is made fun by hundreds of different fashion bloggers or “vloggers” on the internet who have created very specific “lookbooks” to showcase outfit ideas. Just find a favorite youtuber who shares your taste in clothing. Also look for trends that are on the rise. I have noticed that metallic materials are starting to be used a lot more in unconventional ways. Take the iconic rose gold for example as it has been seen in phones, shoes and even sticker tattoos.
Step out of your comfort zone! Getting away from what you are used to is always a great way to grow and that can be applied to many area in life. What is the one thing you were too shy to wear in public? For me that was heels so I opted for Chelsea Boots. These boots are perfectly cute to style with a winter wardrobe and usually have a subtle 1 or 2 inch heel.
Step it up! Maybe you have a clothing item that is forever ingrained in your personal style like oversized sweaters or jeans. Make some tweaks in your style by changing details in these items. Blue jeans can turn to distressed jeans and oversized sweaters can turn to low-rise sweaters. Also, now is a good time to consider buying that watch you have been eyeing for months to a year.
Restock! Make sure that you have all of your clothing essentials to start the year off right. You would be surprised how much matching underwear and pajama sets can boost your confidence. Do you have enough basic long-sleeve shirts? Or maybe you wore out your sweat suits? This is why I accept socks as Christmas presents.
Make-up! Make-up trends are just as prevalent as fashion trends and the same steps apply if you are wanting to step up your make-up routine. Subscribe to youtubers that post bomb make-up tutorials. Don’t be afraid to ask employees at Sephora or Ulta for pointers. Amp up your look by trying different techniques than you are used to and decide if you are ready to splurge on high-end products.
I hope that I have encouraged you to “glo up” for 2016! Here are a list of my favorite fashion and shopping websites for great looks and deals.
Some of my favorite places to shop:
Here is a list of my favorite “Beauty Gurus” of color on youtube:
Hey ladies! It’s that time of the year, and you still don’t know what to put on your wish list that your grandma is begging you for- literally. So, I thought I would share my wish list with you all, hopefully to get you thinking and inspired!
The perfect gift for an on-the-go, yet stylish college student! This olive color is really “in” right now, so you’ll definitely be trendy with this purchase.
2. Michael Kors Quilted-Sleeve Asymmetrical Zip Coat, $94.99
With winter weather comes the need for more layers and thicker coats- this does that job perfectly! Not only is it designer, but it also comes with quilted sleeves for extra warmth! How great would it be to be warm while managing not to look like a big ball of layers? Get this look at www.macys.com
3. Kate Spade Rose Gold Metro Watch, $175.00
We all know that the “rose gold” color is totally in right now! Gift this watch as a simple yet beautiful piece of wrist wear. Every girl needs at least one fashionable watch- it shows she’s about her business, punctual, and stylish all at the same time.
4. Victoria’s Secret Fantasies Fragrance Mist & Lotion Gift Set, $21.00
This is probably one of the easiest gifts to give, and I can guarantee that your giftee will love it! With three different scents, this set comes out as a number 1 seller from the VS fantasies line. We all like to smell good, and whether it’s working or traveling, we all need to freshen up sometimes. The travel size bottles make storing these items easy, making for an overall easy and fantastic gift!
Shop this set at www.victoriassecret.com
It is that time of year again. Tis the season for hot chocolate, fuzzy socks, red and green coffee cups, and all the moisturizer you can get your hands and hair on (We all know how this weather can dry up your curls).
So as you are exchanging Secret Santa gifts at your job and checking your family’s Christmas list…twice, share with another natural the gift of hydrated, perfect curls. Here are a few gifts that are most likely on every natural’s Christmas list.
1. Diffusers. Can’t go wrong with one of these babies. Everyone wants that perfect wash ‘n’ go but without the frizz. Diffusers help eliminate that while bringing an elongated and defined look . Pay attention to some of her favorite natural Youtube vloggers and see which diffusers they are using. I recommend buying a regular blow dryer, and going to a beauty supply store and buying an attachment there. Feel free to throw in a matching heat protectant while you’re at it.
2. Natural Hair Expo. I cannot speak from experience, but I can speak through referrals. I always hear great reviews from people who attend Curls over Brunch or natural hair expos. It can be a ladies night out where you and your girlfriends rent out an apartment in the city and attend a natural hair event during the day and do dinner and drinks at night. Tickets are usually not very pricey, but make sure to get them early because they always, always sell out.
3. A Gift Basket of Hair Products. Shea Moisture, Mane Choice, Carol’s Daughter. There are so many brands out there with incredible lines. Pick one that she has been wanting to experiment with. Choose a line and create a gift basket with all the products from that line. Choose a shampoo, co-wash, leave-in conditioner, oil or serum, and a deep conditioner. TIP: you may want to double up on the deep conditioner, after all it is winter. Buy a woven basket from Hobby Lobby or Target. Pick up some clear tissue or wrapping paper and a bow. After placing all the products in the basket, wrap the basket with the paper making a knot at the top and place the bow around the knot for a cute presentation under the tree.
4. Gift card. When in doubt, gift cards NEVER FAIL. If you are afraid she may have all of the above or she may not like what you picked out, a gift card to ULTA can definitely do the trick.
Hopefully these tips above can make the rest of your holiday shopping a bit easier. Another tip: stay updated with sales, discounts, coupons, and giveaways on social media. Many companies use this time to reach out to all of their customers, so stay on your toes, or should I say finger tips, so that you can buy all the best gifts without breaking your wallet.
Three years ago, after my failed attempt and short lived experience going natural, I decided to give it another try. I watched Youtube video after Youtube video, read blog after blog, and was sure this time I was ready. But seven months after my last perm and four months into my natural hair journey, I was over it.
I started out well with braid outs and twistouts, (braidouts were my favorite) but as my new curls grew in, my styles would not look as nice anymore because of my stringy, straight ends. On top of that, my hair was shedding by the pounds. I was not sure if it was due to the stress I had senior year or if this is what vloggers warned me of. I am talking about the infamous demarcation line.
Whatever it was, I was sick of transitioning. I wanted to be fully natural already, but I was not ready for the big chop. And for the ladies reading this blog who are finding themselves in the same position I was in, I have a few words of advice that may help ease your natural hair journey.
Instead of going for the big chop and heading straight for the TWA, I decided to do a mini chop, multiple ones. As scared as I was, I got the scissors and handed them over to my sister (there was no way I could trust myself) and she cut about 1/3 of my relaxed hair into the trash bin. The next day I got braids for the first time. I was not used the heaviness of it on my neck but I got used to it. I left them in for a tad bit too long, but when I took my braids out in March, I could not believe how long my hair was. It made me wish I just went for the TWA instead.
After taking out my braids, I worked with a bun for a few weeks. Soon it was time for prom. At that point, I cut off what I thought was the last of my perm and had a weave installed. I had leave out, not realizing that I would have to re-straighten it every, single, day, but I made it work. I left my weave in for graduation and then tossed it. I realized I still had a few relaxed ends leftover. I cut those off and had braids put in one last time for the summer, which resulted in my hair growing incredibly once again. I straightened it in August for my sister’s wedding and a year and a month later my hair was down to my shoulders.
So rather than doing the big chop, I chose the mini chop instead. Thanks to protective styles, I was able to maximize moisture and retain length throughout the entire process.
For ladies who are not ready to go for the big chop all at once, I definitely encourage you all to take it step by step, cut little by little, or in increments. If all else fails, remember, it is just hair. It will always grow back.
When thinking about fall, thoughts of pumpkins, dark colors, and images of falling leaves usually come to mind. While we’ve already discussed fall fashion here on CurlyInCollege, I believe it’s time to zero in on another aspect in fall fashion. Shoes! *cue the OMG Shoes! YouTube viral hit from 2006 here* There are hundreds and thousands of different shoes one can wear this season but I’m going to focus on my four go-to pairs. After all, the shoes are what make the outfit.
Doc Martens/Combat Boots
Featured: Macy*s / Missguided.com
Doc Martens are a classic pair of combat boots. In all honesty, I haven’t broken mine in yet and I have had them for almost a year (sorry mom). Nonetheless, I do reach for these due to the edgy look they instantly give my outfits.
I purchased these glossy maroon combat boots from Missguided last winter and love the pop of color they bring to an outfit. Maroon is also a staple color for this season and these boots incorporate it easily into outfits. Both pairs are comfortable which is important when I’m running around campus going to work, class, and grabbing food with friends.
Ankle boots are an easy way to take an outfit and make it look more put together. This is another pick that allows you to be both comfortable and stylish. Ankle boots are always in style whether there are leaves on the ground and a chill in the air or flowers blooming with a shining sun. Simply slip these on and you’re good to go! The pair featured can be found here from Kohls.
Lace Up Flats
The lace up trend has found its way into every article of clothing this season. From head to toe, you can find lace-up detailed clothing. As for footwear, lace-up flats/heels are a huge trend. For comfort reasons, I opt to pursue the trend in the flats variety. Flats already give an outfit a feminine touch but there’s just something about the lacing up detail that makes flats so much better. I personally am not a lover of flats but this pair just kept grabbing my attention and now I absolutely adore them. A similar pair can be found here from Boohoo.com (also love the fact that they come in red, might just have to get them myself) and here from Topshop.
*EXTRA: How I Style My Lace Up Flats (brought to you via Snapchat, of course!)*
Cardigan: BCBGMaxazria, Top: Forever 21, Boyfriend Jeans: Topshop
Last but not least, my go-to pair of shoes for fall are desert boots. Mine happen to be a more pointed toe pair but the more popular style features a round toe. Comfortable (like all my choices), desert boots can also be dressed up or down. From jeans and a cozy sweater to a nice cardigan and dress combination, desert boots are super versatile.
Hopefully this post inspires you to go out and incorporate new footwear in your fall wardrobe. Being that I own way too many pairs of shoes (I like to be prepared for all life/footwear situations okay? Don’t judge), I’ve made it my goal to wear a different pair of shoes for the duration of November. You don’t have to go as far as that, but stepping out in a pair of shoes not usually in your routine can be the start of switching up anything else in your life. Take that first step!
Most college students would agree that long-distance relationships are challenging, but the relationship can work if the couple wants it to.
There are numerous ways to help make long-distance relationships successful. One way is by talking to your significant other every day.
Whether it’s by Skype, on the phone, or texting, communication in long-distance relationships is vital. Couples should talk every day because it will help them remain involved in their partner’s life, without being in the same location.
If a couple talks every day, they can talk about what happened at work, some new renovations to their home, or about their children or pets. The couple is not together, but sharing details about their daily activities, helps the couple keep up to date with what their significant other is doing.
Another way to help make long-distance relationships work is by doing activities simultaneously while you two are apart.
For example, my boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship and at night we watch the same shows together. Since we watch the same show, at the same time, it makes us feel connected.
Being optimistic is another important tip to remember when in a long-distance relationship. The relationship will not work if you don’t have faith that it will work.
Staying positive and focusing on the future you and your significant other will have together will help make the distance not seem problematic.
Make sure to visit each other as much as possible when you are in a long-distance relationship. Visiting at least once a month or every other week will keep the couple’s bond strong and show that you still love spending time with your significant other.
A method I use in my long-distance relationship is giving gifts. By giving gifts I mean that each partner should give each other gifts, so that the other partner will have a little reminder of your love.
My boyfriend bought me a stuffed panda and every time I move from my home to my college, I bring it with me. The gift could be anything from a poem, keychain, ring, or even a pen.
As long as the gift comes from the heart, it will be appreciated.
So don’t worry and stress too much about your long-distance relationship and don’t be scared to get into one. Follow this simple guideline and you will be on your way to having an awesome long-distance relationship!