What is Most Attractive About Natural Males /Females?

I recently did  a small survey on both, males and females around my campus. If many of you do not know, I attend a HBCU (Historically Black College/University), and my school is presented to be very rooted and rich in culture. With the question that I asked, you would not believe the responses that I received! My question was, “Do you think that men perceive you differently now that you are natural?”  To my surprise, I found that many of the natural women on my campus claim to have received more male attention when they were relaxed or had weave extensions, than now since they’ve become natural beauts!

Shocking, right?

In so many ways I could relate to their responses because I have experienced a difference in the attraction of males since I have gone natural as well. The most weird thing about this discovery, though, is that college men are trending the natural look today! For those of you that are not so sure what the natural look is for guys, I got you!

The "oh, so trendy" natural haircut worn best by August Alsina. Sometimes referred to as the "thot haircut" in teen slang.
The “oh, so trendy” natural haircut worn best by August Alsina. Sometimes referred to as the “thot haircut” in teen slang.

This drove me to ask males how has the perception of them changed, since the changing of their hairstyle/cut, and they actually get more attention! With this information, I decided to ask both, male and female, what is it that they find most attractive about those of the opposite sex with natural hair, and here are their responses:

“I prefer natural hair women because it’s their hair.”

-Justin Brevard
-Justin Brevard

“I like the way that most men hair would transition from the soft fade into their natural curl pattern.”

- Janessa Harkley
– Janessa Harkley

“I like that she is comfortable enough with her own hair and that she doesn’t think she needs more to be beautiful. I like women who own their look.”

- Dewayne Cherry
– Dewayne Cherry


“It’s kind of hard to say because every guy isn’t attractive with the natural hair, but the most attractive thing is when they have a nice curl pattern and a clean shape up.”

-Lexis Taylor
-Lexis Taylor

“It looks cute, and it shows that a women put in the effort to look presentable every morning.”

- Jorden Stokes
– Jorden Stokes

“I don’t really care for that hairstyle on my preference of men.”

- Alisha Parks
– Alisha Parks


So there, ladies. With this I have concluded that there are a variety of people that just have a different preference. There are plenty of men out there that are encouraging us to embrace our natural because that is what they like! The bottom line is that if you love your natural, it will never matter to you who doesn’t. Same for you men. Wear your hair however best suits your happiness. I have found that many people don’t like certain trends until someone else does. The newest trend of natural hair can start with you. Be creative. Be natural. Be you!

Comment below and share what you find most attractive about naturals of the opposite sex! I’d love to hear from you!

Meet The Interns: Kiana Ward

Hello! I am Kiana Ward, a current student at North Carolina A&T State University and I am expected to graduate in the year of 2018. I went natural January 2nd, 2014, and I big chopped.

My deciding factor on going natural was that I just wanted healthier and more even textured hair. I had grown tired of the straight ends and the breakage and I just needed something different. Still today, my perception of myself varies depending on my social group. Some like my curls and others do not. When I receive compliments on my curls, I love them. When there’s criticism, I find myself trying to change my look. I have definitely experienced a difference in treatment since going natural…especially with the guys. But I enjoy my hair either way. It’s mine!

My favorite part of my hair routine would have to be deep conditioning. I love the feeling after you’ve detangled and shampooed. It is amazing. My top three hair products would be Coconut Oil (any brand, honestly),Aquage Seaextend Ultimate Colorcare with Thermal-V Strengthening Conditioner, 16 Ounce( love it! live by it), and Shop CurlyInCollege© – Carol’s Daughter Hair Milk Original Leave-In Moisturizer for Unisex, 8 Ounce.

My top three hair tool…I don’t really use any tools. However, I do use my paddle brush whenever I wear my hair in a bun. Bob Pins are very useful also.

My #MCM has been and will always be A$AP Rocky, and my #WCW is the beautiful Jade Kendle from Youtube. I love you guysss.


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The Truth Behind the Baking Soda Cleaning Method

There are many D.I.Y tutorials floating around the web, but are they really giving us the honest truth about what we should and should not participate in? The Baking soda method has become a very popular and cheap way of cleansing and restoring moisture into the strands of straight hair. Truth be told, this method cannot be used on every type of natural hair, if any at all. We are all aware that every natural is not the same. We all have many different curl patterns within our hair and we are fully aware that our hair responds to things differently than it may someone else.

As for the Baking Soda method, (based on personal research) it is not recommended for those with majority 4b/4c type hair. Although many have labeled baking soda as another ingredient to our natural hair products, we must also remember that it is still a chemical and that it will effect our hair. 4b/4c hair, when wet, has a pH balance of about 4.5-5.5, which makes it acidic.  Baking soda has a pH of 9.0, which makes it a base or alkaline. Therefore, baking soda opens up the cuticle layer of your hair just as an acid would close the cuticle layer of the hair. The baking soda along with water used to cleanse your hair causes for the pH balance to fluctuate, which explains why most natural hair products are usually pH balanced. Baking soda, however, is not.

The key to finding a good product that compliments your hair well, is by balancing out the pH. Also, being that the method is mostly popular with our straight-haired friends; stripping their hair of natural oils; we cannot really expect for the product to fulfill our needs. Natural hair thrives off of moisture, and textures such as 4b/4c, which are more dry than any other texture, cannot afford to strip their hair of any natural oils, as more extreme measures are necessary to restore the moisture. So, for you beautiful naturals out there, being cheap with this product just may disappoint your desired results., and remember “quality is everything”.

Real Talk: Relationships, Sex, and Reputation

We are all so pumped, excited and ready to embark our new journey entering college. We come in full of expectations that may go unmet, a mind unopened to things that we’ve never faced, and a stranger to so many new personalities. Everyone that you meet will not come from the same walks of life as yourself.

So real talk, coming in as a teenage girl our minds are naturally engaged to the variety of the men around us. Let me just remind you that everything that looks appealing, may not be good for you. Every guy does not have your best interest in mind…even if he claims otherwise. Sex is a big deal in college. For many guys, that is all that they really want…or nothing at all. Good relationships are rare, and commitment is scarce. It is really difficult to build a relationship with someone within a semester when you’re meeting so many new faces each and every day. I will not say that it is impossible, but it is certainly unlikely. It is up to you to distinguish that in the guy that you are dealing with, as it is extremely important.

Body count, a term created in reference to the number of partners you have had, can make or break you. It is not logical to sexually encounter every guy you meet, so, when your body count begins to peak, your reputation begins to decline. You have to be mindful of the fact that what people think of you, sometimes matters more than you may want it to. You would never want information regarding your one-night stand getting back to someone who has any form of authority over you. Also, a misrepresentation of you can easily become the representation of who you are. You have now become that person, whether it is who you really are, or not.

It’s all about branding yourself, how people perceive you, and you have to be mindful of that. Your reputation is something that you should value, because it can and it will affect the legacy that you leave behind. Carry yourself accordingly. Don’t focus too much on building relationships with these guys that don’t want anything more than sex, and build more with those wanting to impact your life positively. Be mindful of the legacy that you want to leave behind, and maintain reputation that compliments your interest and what best represents who you are.

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